Saturday, 22 March 2014

Stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid!

I am so frustrated with myself I can tell you, so disappointed that I had a drink yesterday, ashamed even.  I did not enjoy it and it meant I hardly slept again and it almost ruined today. Such was it’s impact on me that I found it hard to kick start my day.  I could not focus on my job and it took most of the morning to get into gear.  If I could pick myself up by the scruff of the neck and give myself a good shaking I would.  I felt like I have let myself and the people around me down, I am so sorry peeps.  If anything it served as a reminder as the to the effects it has on my day and me, all of them negative as far as I can see.

In some respects I can draw strength from yesterday as it confirms that I am doing the right thing.  My life is better off without alcohol ruling the roost.  From now on I am going to tell those close to me if I want to buy alcohol and they are to say no, that is all that is needed I think.  Hopefully I will not be in that position again but with so many amazing people around me I know I am going to win this battle.

If you don’t know and why should you I am passionate about photography, I love the art and being behind my camera.  It is always good to receive feedback from people regarding my work.  In online forums I usually get quotes like “nice pic”, “cool photo” or just a smiley face or thumbs up icon.  Not exactly the short of feedback that is either helpful or encouraging.  So you can image my delight when a fellow shopper sent me the following comment that was warmly received and made this chap feel very good, thank you Ms Hernanz-Lillo.

“Just had a proper look at your website and I am very impressed. I like your "people" and "street photography" very much. I think you have a very personal aesthetic, specially on the black and white pics. The pictures are obviously well though out, but they feel honest and immediate, which is refreshing in this age of crazy filters and intrusive editing. I particularly love that you are not imposing a particular mood into the image, as that allows the subjects and the scenario to speak for themselves; some feel joyous, some melancholic, etc. You give a portrayal of everyday life that is not intrusive nor seems to have an agenda. To me, the images you have created feel very gentle and compassionate.”

In fact she is spot on as when out with my camera on the streets I do not like to impose.  My street photography is a reflection of how I like to watch life around me go about its business, watching from the sidelines.  It is good to know that I have been successful in including my thoughts and feelings in my work.  Big smile.  If you have not seen my website please pay a visit and if you have time let me know what you think as a whole or if you have a favourite photograph.  The address is www.slawrencephotography.com.

That neatly brings me on to the music album I mentioned yesterday, “From Broken to Bethany” by Therese Hood.  The more I listen to it the more I understand the songs and their message, it is such a beautiful album it has made it into my top ten albums to be stuck on a desert island with.  What makes the album so special is that it is a personal story of Therese’s life and experiences.  The CD explains the reasons behind the story being told and when you listen to the music and read the lyrics that story hits home, hard in some cases.  I hope Tess does not mind me quoting from the album but it has struck such a cord with me that I want to share it.

‘From Broken to Bethany’ is a true story…  A story that tells, in part, my life experiences, but also of many that I have encountered over the years.  It starts with the pain of a lost childhood, sexual abuse and then the inevitable consequences of such a beginning.  Wrong relationships, wrong lifestyle choices, living a life with little or no real self worth.  For a great part of my life, I have believed that fear and love go together and have only felt a sense of security in violent and fearful relationships.

Then, parenting.  Trying against all the odds to nurture children, with little or no good experience to draw on.  Living, and failing daily, then leads to shame, guilt and more fear.  Fear for the children’s present and future lives.

I have lived and sometimes wanted to die in the midst of it all, but I have found hope.  The Lord Jesus Christ, by the loving power of His Holy Spirit has helped me in the midst of my hopelessness, despair and just wanting to be me.  He has set about restoring my life since I allowed him into my place of hiding.  It is Jesus who has led me gently by the hand into the presence of the perfect parent, my Father in heaven.

I would not say I now get it ‘right’ all the time, but I do have someone to turn to when I inevitably get it wrong.  I am forgiven all things through my belief that Jesus Christ died on the cross for me.  Because of that knowledge, I have been able to forgive my abuser and forgive myself for my mistakes.

I dedicate this album to those who are still hiding, that they may find the courage to knock on the one true door of hope.  Also, in loving memory of my late father and mother, for doing their very best in the most difficult of circumstances.

Having read that then listening to the songs makes so much difference, especially the track entitled “Lay Down”.  It has to be the first song to make me feel sad and angry at the story it tells.

This is a shameless plug but the album is so beautiful I shed not a tear of guilt, the album can be brought here and on iTunes.


I have never been one for reading album covers or getting to know the lyrics of songs, it is usually the rhythm or beat that I am attracted too.  But I am slowly starting to listen to the lyrics too, after all the artist took the time to write them!  Mind you when it comes to the likes of Scritti Politti or Owl City I am beginning to wonder!  I also now understand why I have received funny looks or a strange reaction to my song choices in the past.  In know that a lot of song writers tell of their personal experiences through their music but it is often difficult to understand without a lot of research.  Tess has, by including a short story brought her music to life in a way I have never experienced before, thank you very much from the bottom of my heart, Si x.  From no one I intend to get to understand my music in more detail, feel the music rather than just listen to it.

Well that is all for now this chap is tired and is looking forward to a good nights sleep free of troubling thoughts and alcohol.  This Tigger wants his bounce back and is on a mission to find a super bounce.

Until next time take care.


Si x

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